ITALY, Eugenio Minici and Vanda Rebuffat •
On the afternoon of the 19th of May, the Café for Couples took place in the Parish of the Patron Saints in Rome, under the direction of the Schoenstatt Fathers. It is an offer of an afternoon of rest and deepening of unity as a couple, of walking together and of original freshness. —
The day began with the “couples’ game”, questions for the couples to get to know each other better in the group of couples present.
After the game, some themes for reflection were presented (some inspired by Father Kentenich’s pedagogy), such as
- Pope Francis’ words “Please, thank you and forgive me” and their explanation;
- The couple talk and self-education
- The maintenance of the couple’s relationship.
The maintenance of the couple’s relationship aims, in particular, to regularly address, in the context of the couple’s dialogue, the changes that accompany the evolution of the couple and the family (choice or change of residence, children growing up, change of job, etc.). In such situations, the couple’s harmony can grow as they face the difficulties and/or changes together, but it can also happen that the bond breaks and rivalry and/or intolerance arise where there was once unity and understanding. It is therefore important for the couple to maintain their relationship on a regular basis, just as we regularly have our car checked by a mechanic.
The meeting continued with a moment of dialogue between the participating couples in a relaxed environment (the organisers served coffee or other drinks, with some sweets and romantic music in the background) to encourage conversation between the couples on certain topics.
The meeting ended with the presentation of the Cafe Programme, an initiative aimed at married or engaged couples to provide a way to grow and strengthen the relationship as well as an opportunity for dialogue. The programme is divided into five thematic areas, the first letters of which are the letters of the word Caffè: Condivisione, Alleanza, Fedeltà, Fecondità, Educazione (roughly: Sharing, Covenant, Loyalty, Fruitfulness, Education).
Original: Italian. Translation: Maria Fischer @schoenstatt.org